Surviving Pet Grief
We encourage all grieving families and pet owners to seek support after making this difficult decision. It’s important to allow yourself the time and space you need to move forward without your companion.
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​Allow Yourself the Time
There is no predetermined timeline for grieving. Some days may seem manageable, while others might be unexpectedly challenging. It's important to be kind to yourself and allow the process to unfold naturally. Grief doesn't adhere to a fixed schedule, and it's completely normal to still feel sorrow after a month, six months, or even a year. Allow yourself the time you need; healing will occur in your heart's own time.
​Going Through the Emotions
Grief is a complex and emotional experience, and it is completely normal to encounter the full spectrum of feelings of sadness, anger, and guilt. Allow yourself to experience these emotions without self-judgment. When dealing with a significant loss, you have every right to grieve deeply. Embracing these emotions is the first step toward healing.
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Be With Friends and Family
Discussing your pet with those who empathize can be profoundly therapeutic. Sharing memories or simply reflecting on their unique habits with friends and family can alleviate feelings of solitude. Often, the greatest solace comes from the knowledge that someone else comprehends.
​Create a Small Memorial
Creating a memorial for your pet can provide a sense of closure. As simple as lighting a candle, planting a flower in their honor, or framing a cherished photo. These small gestures offer a way to cherish their memory in a unique way, allowing you to part ways on your own terms and keep their memory alive.​​
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Remember the Happy Times
Browsing through photos and videos of your pet can help you immerse in the nostalgia. Such memories can provide immense comfort, helping to move your thoughts from the sorrow of loss to the happiness of the time spent together. The love and happiness you experienced are everlasting treasures.
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Prioritize Self-Care
Grief can be taxing on both the body and mind, making self-compassion essential. Ensure you're resting adequately, eating nutritiously, and engaging in light activity, even if it's a brief stroll. Self-care isn't an act of forgetting your pet; it's about equipping yourself with the resilience needed during this challenging period.
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Mindfulness Towards Your Other Pets
It's not uncommon to see pets exhibit signs of mourning after a fellow housemate passing away. Consistency in quality time is advisable. Additionally, consider introducing them to new animal friends at dog parks, providing new toys, offering novel experiences, taking early morning walks, or playing music.
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Connecting with Those Who Understand
Reaching out to others who have experienced a similar loss can be beneficial if you're feeling isolated in your grief. Support groups for pet loss, available both online, by phone and in person, provide empathy and solace. Conversing with individuals who genuinely understand can significantly alter your experience, making you feel more connected and affirming your emotions.
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The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement (APLB) is a nonprofit organization comprised of compassionate volunteers who are well-informed about the sensitive topic of pet death. They are committed to supporting individuals during this unique form of grief. Their website offers a comprehensive array of resources pertaining to pet loss.
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​Phone Lines​
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Grief counselor: toll free at 855-PET-LOSS (855-738-5677)
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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255
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